Men
forcing women to have sex with them.
Men
forcing women to have sex with them when they want.
Men
forcing women to have sex with them more often.
Men
forcing women to have sex with them period, to me constitutes rape*. Whether the
man uses his physical power to rape, kicks his wife out of the bed unless she gives in, withholds money, uses emotional blackmail**, or goes off sleeping around to emotionally manipulate her into
thinking it’s all her fault and that she is obliged to give him what he wants***.
In the eyes of the law in the UK all of these things would constitute a rape
charge. But alas, so many men carry on perpetrating these types of crimes
because for some reason they think they are owed something, or they feel
cheated because their wife is menopausal and not feeling like having sex.
"I am a man and I have feelings, I have needs." Fucking disgusting.
I would
say that any of these disgusting techniques are to me as abhorrent as the acts
of someone like Jimmy Savile (maybe worse, as Savile was clearly a clinical psychopath, whereas husbands are doing this to the one they "Love"). Using a position of power, whether given by
institution or by “god given abilities”, instead of trying to create a mutual
position of love, is for me atavism to the highest degree. But how can we
approach these old out of touch men who seek to foster an environment that
leads to this way of thinking. How can we make them realise they are owed
nothing, and that if they would like something they should work at it, or even
sometimes put-up and shut-up/forget-about-it? How can we get them to shoulder
the blame and change their ways, to realise they have to provide safety and
protection for their woman without the expectation of sexual favours on demand?
Maybe we can’t teach older dogs new tricks (and sadly we can’t put them down as
they are supposedly humans not animals), but we can, by peace, bring up the next
generation to realise that men have no special sexual dispensation: a mode many men
are attempting to manipulate/perpetuate within the modern social context.
There is a big difference between working and striving to please your woman, and using threats to get what you want.
There is a big difference between working and striving to please your woman, and using threats to get what you want.
For all
you women out there who worry that the next generation won’t move onwards to a
more civilised state of social evolution, I can say with my hand on my heart
that I as a father will ensure my son understands his responsibilities fully,
without any erroneous feeling of entitlement.
Is being
a real man being one who creates and provides? Not only; not without the
recognition that women are to be cherished and loved and respected, at all times, for the wonderful and beautiful entities they are.
* "Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion,
abuse of authority or with a person who is incapable of valid consent,
such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent."
Source Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape
** Rape via emotional blackmail: http://www.welfare.qmul.ac.uk/wellbeing/problems/assault/index.html
*** Marital rape by coercion: "Increasingly, researchers have begun to use broad definitions of sexual
violence to more fully understand many women's experiences of ""unwanted
sex"" or sex out of a sense of obligation or ""wifely duty"" (Basile,
2002; DeKeseredy & Joseph, in press; Finkelhor & Yllo, 1985).
For example, Finkelhor and Yllo (1985) note the importance of social
coercion (the pressure women feel to have sex as a result of social and
cultural expectations of marriage as an institution) and interpersonal
coercion (women who feel pressured to have sex when non-violent threats
such as withholding money or child support are made) in women's
experiences of marital rape. In their study of women who are sexually
assaulted when they are separated or divorced from their partners,
DeKeseredy and Joseph (in press) classify women's experiences into four
categories including sexual contact, sexual coercion (which includes
unwanted intercourse as a result of verbal pressure), attempted rape,
and rape. Each of these conceptualizations is important in helping us
to understand the complexities and nuances of women's experiences of
sexual violence with their partners. As we will address later, it is
important for practitioners who are involved in trying to end violence
against women to see marital rape in all of its forms and complexities
in order to assist survivors."
Source (please see paragraph 14): http://www.vawnet.org/print-document.php?doc_id=248&find_type=web_desc_AR
Links:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12477095If you are suffering at the will of your partner please consider one of the below links:
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk
http://www.rainn.org
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